Starting over in your 30s isn’t so bad when you’ve done it so much in your 20s.

But, I’ll be honest and admit that I’m not happy about it.

While I’m a little dejected, I’m more so radically accepting that I haven’t found my life purpose in my 20s and will be doing it later than I would have liked.

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What does finding your purpose even mean?

I think when life starts accidentally working out, you’ve found your purpose. And, things just haven’t worked out for me.

I’d try something new and it led nowhere. And we’ll get to the “it’s the things we’ve learned along the way” bit later lol.

This is actually my fourth blog.

I started my first blog in 2020 about how to solo travel as a woman so I could promote a crowdfunding campaign to launch a travel makeup bag I had designed. The second blog was about how to sew as a beginner. My third blog was about digital marketing so I could “make myself stand out” to employers, but with this shit economy, I still haven’t found another job.

The problem with being a girl with too many hobbies is that there isn’t enough time to do all of them!

When something else like selling cookies or mixed martial arts becomes my next fixation, things naturally fall by the wayside and those blogs just sat there, now defunct.

That’s why I’ve set up this personal lifestyle blog about my collection of hobbies. So, when something else naturally piques my interest and is that season’s obsession, I can still write about it!

I know it goes against all conventional wisdom that mandates niching down in order to build a dedicated audience, but overcoming challenges sometimes requires you to go against the grain.

Consistency over everything else. At least I think so for now.

I know wandering with no purpose is just as bad but that’s not my particular problem so that’s not my particular solution!

This time around, I’m just fucking around to find out. I have no expectations on this leading anywhere besides meeting other people who maybe feel the same and want to do shit to make life a little better.

The meaning of success in your 20s

As annoying as starting over in your 30s after a setback (or five) in your 20s is, starting fresh feels more focused on personal growth than anything else.

Because to be honest, I’ve sort of given up on what it means to be successful i.e. make a lot of money lol.

“Giving up” sounds kind of bad.

What I’m really trying to say is that starting over in my 30s is about radically accepting that things just didn’t fall into place in my 20s as I had hoped and it just is what it is.

I have friends and family members who did seemingly stumble into their lucrative careers in their 20s and even say they’ve found their purpose in life, but are still lost — just in different ways.

While it doesn’t really make me feel better per se, it makes it easier to accept what is for me.

Maybe in my next life things will be “easy” and I’ll be rich in all the ways that I wanted to be in my 20s and aligned with my purpose sooner rather than later too.

But, I know the human experience will always involve struggle. I’ll probably have the same low vibrational experience in some other aspect of my life and I’ll be wishing that I wasn’t going through this and that I would rather give up everything that I have to not be going whatever problem I’m going through.

So, what the hell is a girl supposed to do if life just sucks period?

Starting over in your 30s by living in the moment

Based on all the soul-searching that I’ve done this year, the only answer that I can give you (because it is the only answer that I have been given) is to live in the moment and find joy in something, anything simply for the sake of it.

Because if you don’t live in the moment now, you won’t live in the moment when you have everything.

And let’s say worst-case scenario you never achieve anything. Now you’ve fucked yourself over twice.

It’s objectively better to have lived an uneventful, mediocre life happy than to have lived an uneventful, mediocre life miserable, no?

Easier said than done, but it does help when it does lol.

Do it for your future self/selves

I’ve been exploring the concept of past lives this summer to figure out why I feel like a loser, which to be clear, for me, the definition of a loser is someone who sets goals and does not achieve them.

I’ve been looking for a new job for the last three to five years ㄱ.ㄱ

After doing some research, I did a past life regression with Fiona Harris of Clear Path Healing and she explained that we are but a tentacle of a giant octopus that is our higher self.

So, our past lives are living their lives in tandem to ours (sort of) and we can tap into their energy as well. To me, this also means our next life is a new tentacle that we’re living simultaneously after this one (?).

But, more importantly, what we learn in this life will help our next life.

And, I want to do my future self (in this life and next) a favor by re-wiring my brain to focus on finding joy or peace in everything I do, no matter how small or mundane. It’s the best way to enjoy the bigger things that will come along and you will feel so much inner satisfaction without attachment to the external.

This was the strongest message I was given in my session with Fiona.

If this blog never goes anywhere, if I never find another job, if my bakery never gets accepted to the farmer’s market, then the least I can do is just vibe and get really good at it.

Concluding thoughts on starting over in your 30s

I have no idea if this is helpful to anyone else but me LOL. If you’re not into woo-woo witch talk, then I’ll leave you with this:

Don’t focus on reinventing yourself when starting over in your 30s. Focus on rediscovering yourself instead.

There’s a saying that children are closest to god and we slowly get cut off from that source as we age. Since we were all once children ourselves, we were also once pure and close to god/source/the universe.

We are not becoming “new,” but going back to “old.”

I hope this was helpful!

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